Yes, I don’t like them, but don’t worry, the same applies for me.
Why? Whether it be our friends, our mother or where we live — they’re hurting us. (There are exceptions, but for the most part, this is true).
The reason they’re hurting us is they’re holding us back from achieving all that we can. Don’t get me wrong — they’re all great, but too often in our quest to be friends and be seen as a great person to someone we know, we’re simply too kind.
These people are too kind in that they give out sympathy at the drop of a hat. They throw out compliments when none are deserved. Come on folks! It’s time to put on the big boy pants and suck it up and call it as we see it.
The problem is too many people we hang out with simply don’t see it.
Case in point are friends who are quick to tell you how things are going to be OK and far too quick to say you’re working too hard when truth be told both are garbage.
I can’t tell you the number of times my mom would offer me sympathy for something that didn’t go right. Sure, she meant well, but the only thing she did was soothe my bruised ego. She didn’t do anything with regard to dealing with the problem.
The issue I have is we have far too many people in our lives who simply think small. They are willing to settle for average, and many, in fact, see average as being awesome.
Excuse me, but that sucks! I’m calling it the way I see it.
When we allow ourselves to settle for less than what we know is possible, we’re selling ourselves short. What we should be striving for is achieving that which does not seem possible. That’s stretching the envelope!
Who are you listening to that you need to stop listening to? Conversely, who is somebody you need to be listening to who will expand your horizons?
If you’re not pushing yourself to extend your boundaries, then go ahead and hang out with small thinking people.
Just don’t come to the point in the road 5, 10 or 20 years from now where you look back with a sense of failed accomplishment.
You set your own horizon.
Copyright 2014, Mark Hunter “The Sales Hunter.” Sales Motivation Blog. Mark Hunter is the author of High-Profit Selling: Win the Sale Without Compromising on Price.
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2 Responses
I believe in moderation in all things. gotta find the correct mixture of sympathy and straightforward-ness.
I am currently going through this right now, word for word with exception to a small town. It’s an internal struggle I have because it deals with a couple close friends for many years and my Mother. I almost feel trapped to be honest.